I had a woman reach out to me, and ask if it’s possible to attract a partner right now. Let me offer this story…
My husband got ticked off because a guy hit on me at Walmart.
We had separated to look for different things, and my husband came back to me just in time to see me showing my ring, and hear me telling a guy that I was married, but I appreciated his compliment.
My husband gave the guy a dirty look, and then said to me, “how does he even know what you look like? You’re wearing a mask!”
That’s not the first time I’ve had that experience since the pandemic. Not even the first time this week. (Don’t tell my husband that.) And not just me. I have clients, and friends, who still have men approaching them, even with a mask on. And they live in places that still have restrictions in place, so it’s not like they can go out that often, of go to places where you would get dressed up.
So what gives? Here is how you can still attract, from the most obvious to the least.
- People can still see your body, boo. Dress in a way that flatters it. I know most people are working from home right now. But it makes a world of difference to keep a pair of jeans, or a skirt, nearby that you can exchange for those sweats when you go to the gas station, or Walmart, or Target, or wherever you’re headed.
- Peacocking is a real thing. My course, Godly Dating 101, has a whole lesson on how wearing certain colors and certain fabrics make you more attractive.
- Least obvious, but most importantly, feminine energy is magnetizing! We get what we expect. If you keep telling yourself that men can’t or won’t approach you, they won’t. If you lack confidence, people can feel that. If you haven’t healed from your past relationships, people can sense that. Abusers will take advantage of you, and healthy people will be repelled by you. If you are confident, healed, and expectant, you’ll get the attention you want.
Do me a favor. Take some time today to think about when you felt your most confident. A time in your life in which you were most satisfied. Think about how people treated you then. Did you notice that other people treated you better? That your relationships – with partners, friends, family, and co-workers – felt easier and lighter? It’s that feeling that attracts. It’s that feeling that motivates you to put on decent clothes, to have conversations, and to be overall more approachable.
This is what people mean when they unhelpfully tell you that “the right partner will come along when you least expect it.” It’s not that God waits for you to give up, then sprinkles magic fairy dust and sends someone. It’s that you become more attractive when you are at peace with your own life, and operate out of a position of wanting and valuing a great partner, not needing one.