I don’t know if there’s something in the water, but lately I’ve gotten a fair number of questions about dating and marrying wealthy. I’m going to answer that question. But first, I have thoughts…
Firstly, you do not need a man for anything, including money. You are more than capable of earning your ideal salary. A great man adds to your life, and makes it better, makes it more fulfilling, and adds pleasure. He should not be someone you depend on.
That being said, you should definitely look for financial stability in a partner. Finances are one of the main reasons for divorce. A partner who cannot manage money will drag you down with him. It’s better to have a partner with an average income who manages his money well and is committed to providing, than a high-earner who spends frivolously.
Speaking of average salary, the median salary for a man in the U.S. is just over $57,000 a year. And the numbers are similar in Canada and across the European Union- $45k-$60k. So if you are determined to find a husband who makes six figures, you will be competing with a lot of women for about 5% of men.
Why am I telling you these stats? Because it brings me to the answer to “how do I snag a rich man,” and it also leads to the main thing I always want my clients to learn from me. You get what you want when you are in alignment with it. If you want to marry a rich man, you cannot be the type of woman who can be bought. It’s one thing to appreciate gifts, or someone paying a bill. But when you are craving that, or worse, when you need someone to pay for you, people can feel that energy. And no one wants to feel used. Everyone wants to be respected. And a high-value man – one who is both financially stable and rich in character- commands respect, and wants someone who expects to be respected by him. If a nice bag or some Louboutins is enough to make you overlook character flaws, you’re not a High Value Woman- you’re a groupie.
This goes for time and affection as well. When a woman has not healed from past neglect, or abandonment, she will often cling to the first signs of attention- and ignore the red flags. Yes, a man is supposed to spend time with you. Yes, he’s supposed to say and do loving things. But that’s the bare minimum. If he uses “quality time” as a means to control you and isolate you from your friends, he ain’t the one. If he compliments you one second, but says disparaging things the next, he ain’t the one. If he love bombs you and showers you with attention for a few weeks, then pulls away with no explanation, he ain’t the one.
A high value woman is never afraid to walk away when someone disrespects her. She is already taking care of herself. She expects a man to also care for her because if he can’t, what’s the point? A good partner should add to your life. But she is by no means desperate for anyone’s care or attention.